(I fell asleep after the last blog post, btw.)
T resurfaced the next day, his morning my noon. He was horny and wanted to cum, I was in my office – which normally doesn’t stop me from getting in the mood – but this time, I felt a bit… put off. Those are his first words, after being silent like that? Like a booty call? Oh well. It’s what we’re here for, isn’t it. He came to my typed scenarios, and I even skipped the first part of my lunch break to help him out – and enjoyed doing so.
But after he came he disappeared again and didn’t come back on all day. Bad manners. Not like him, actually.
I was irritated and sad all day. Moody, lonely.
So this is the pattern: He needs me, I’m there, either to whisper or to type. I need him, he’s nowhere to be seen, so I end up masturbating alone. It’s been like this for a while. And I can’t get my head around why. It’s easy to feel annoyed and neglected – but I’m not sure that’s what it is about, it may also be down to pure logistics. Our situations are a bit different from before. We’ve had a lot of bad luck with timing lately.
He did acknowledge that he ows me one. But I’m still feeling grumpy and neglected.
Then, as if by magic, Cape reappears, offering to get me off… He’s SO good at making me cum, but I’m stupid and loyal and faithful. I turned him down.
So then it hits me: This is the downside of being exclusive.
Before, I would have jumped at Cape’s offer. And I would then have been fine with T:s “bad manners”, because I wouldn’t be crazy frustrated, which I am now. I haven’t cum in days. That’s probably part of the problem. That physical thing that happens when I go too long without an orgasm – I get tense and irritated and unforgiving. If Cape hadn’t been available, I would have gone into a chat room and found someone, anyone, to cum with, just so I didn’t have to do it alone every single time. Most the time – fine. All the time – killing me.
And I think back to T saying – back when he asked me to not talk with others – to let him know when there’s a gap he’s not filling, so he can do something about it, instead of me secretly running off to talk with some other guy.
It’s sinking in now. This is what “being exclusive” means. This is what I didn’t grasp in my marriage, until it was too late: You don’t get your needs satisfied, you have to speak up and ask for it. So now that same thing is happening in my pretend-relationship, my learning experiment, the training ground that is my online relationship. And I realise I have to voice my needs to T, and see where that takes me.
That’s something new.